Robert Farquharson - Man or Monster?

Oct 18 2010

On Friday, one of the mums at mothers’ group (I am a grandmother who volunteers to make the teas and coffees and do the fruit) came up to me and said, “I finished the book and I loved it, just couldn’t put it down. I was reading until 2 o’clock in the morning. But how did you come to write about such a dark subject.”
“Well,” I replied, “it happens. People do bad things. Sometimes the children are innocent victims. When we wrote 'Lover Husband Father Monster' we set out to get inside a marriage that ends in tragedy and to trace its decline from love and harmony to hate and vengeance. “
On Saturday morning I picked up the newspaper to see the headline “It should be Life” in reference to the case of Robert Farquharson who deliberately drove his three young boys to a watery grave on Father’s Day 2005 in order to reek revenge on his astranged wife. The case is the talk of Melbourne and people find it almost impossible to comprehend how a man could do this to his sons because his wife left the marriage. By all reports Farquharson shows absolutely no remorse.
This was one of the cases that made us think about supreme acts of revenge. When you read the book, you can decide for yourself, ‘ What would lead a man to act in such a deplorable way? Is it that he thinks he has ownership of his wife and his children? Is it his personality and background that leads him to believe he has power over other people? Was the marriage flawed in the first place? Is it just the ultimate act of cowardice?’
The book gives two sides of the story, the man’ s and the woman’s. You decide.

“This man lost all rights when he selfishly took the lives of his three children in an act of revenge.”

“I am the father of three boys. How could he do what he did is beyond comprehension. He needs a long time to think about his abomination.”

“He should spend his life behind bars and then eternity in Hell.”

"For his wife Cindy Gambino the "horrible Odyssey" was almost over.....across the court Farquharson's sisters watched with red eyes, clutching each other's hands. They still believe their brother is a broken and innocent man."
( Lucy Van den Berg, Herald Sun, October 16, 2010.)